Tuesday, 25 November 2014

I Hate you like I love You

Love and care is all that one needs to have a perfect life. Isn't it?
Do you have someone who used to care for you like nobody else in the world or maybe like your parents ? Who used to make you feel at home but suddenly things changed between you two. That person started backing off .  Though they still care for you, but most of your talks have started turning into taunts. Your conversations have started ending either abruptly or with an argument. Then long hours of silence, then again that person is back to you as if nothing has happened. And you completely have no idea why the other person is behaving like that, what is wrong. It irritates you when you ask what is wrong and get silence as the answer.
So here I am with answers to those questions, however I cannot assure how many of you will be able to relate to it. I would like to quote an example to aid my explanation: for those of you who have seen 'Jane Tu Ya Jane Na', might remember Amit, Aditi's brother, he hated Jai and never talked straight to either to Jai or Aditi. Once Aditi asked him why have you changed, why have you gone so far? To which he replied that it was not him who went far, it was just other people who surrounded Aditi. 

People do not actually understand, all those odd behavior, rash talks are just to gain that attention back which has been diverted to other people. They still love you the way they used to, but hate you for not understanding their feelings. All you need is to give that time which they deserve, but before starting up again do sit and talk and have a great long argument, and in that argument you would get to know how long your presence was longed for, what all were the places where you were missed. And then maybe you may realize that you were about to loose a pearl while collecting stones. So, go and mend up before time runs out.

Saturday, 22 November 2014

The Other side

At certain situations in life, most of us think what the other person might think if we do so. But according to me the concern should be on 'why' rather than 'what'. I might be sounding bit confusing. Here, I am trying to make you walk in other person's shoes. Many a times I find  myself in a situation , about which I think later and discover that I overreacted, the other person was also correct on his or her part. Understanding other person's point of view is a bit difficult task. For that, one just has to assume for few moments that the other person is right. This doesn't mean that you are wrong. But, when you assume the other person is right, you analyze the situation in a whole new different perspective., which is the 'other side' I am taking about. Once you analyze the situation and place yourself at the other person's place, or I should say, walk in other person's shoes, and think what you would have done had you been there, you master your thoughts. And many a times you discover 'why' that other person did that to you, and ultimately you have a different idea of the whole situation after doing so.
Doing this actually requires a bit of efforts, but if implemented successfully it brings peace of mind. This activity helps you to get away from that inner battles which you have in your brain that 'why people do this to me?'. This would go incomplete without an example. Once my friend told me that her manager always keeps on shouting at people, he makes them work madly and never appreciates. She was really frustrated at him. Her frustration is right on her part, isn't it?  However, think from manager's point of view, an employee has to deal with 1 manager but a manager has to deal with many employees. He has to derive work from each one of them and make them work efficiently. Though this does not give any manager  rights to be rude to his employees , but had he been lenient would everyone listen to him?
Making people work for you is not that easy job, and work pressure can frustrate anyone even your manager.
 So, next when you hear a scolding, just try to understand the other side, and then you'll have a chilled out attitude towards that scolding, and you would be able to concentrate back to your work with much better spirits. Try this, because ultimately you have to complete that work and cribbing only reduces your efficiency.

      Another aspect I would like to give to the 'other side' is to see positive in every situation. I don't say that I see positive in every situation I get into. Even I do crib, but I recover soon, because I put my mind in the direction to find what is good in this situation, and many a times putting things together I solve the jigsaw puzzle. If you see something good in yourself, then do remember that it was 'some situations' put together , which made you what you are today. And they will keep making you worth :D.


Friday, 14 November 2014

Jadu ki Jhappi (A Magical Hug)

For those of you who have seen Munna_Bhai_M.B.B.S. might be knowing what does Jadu ki Jhappi mean. But have you ever tried using it? The miracle it does, the happiness it gives to the heart. Just try it once, give someone you love, an unexpected tight hug and when you are held back even tighter, you'll feel the magic.
   When you meet a friend after a long time and hug each other, the grip itself tells, how badly you were missed. When you meet your mother after a long time and embrace her, do notice her eyes, they would be numb and satisfied, to see you back. That is the magic of a hug aka Jadu ki jhappi.
   Again I would come back to my example, I am a shy kind of a person who doesn't showcase love openly. I even feel shy expressing it to my mother too. Though I go home almost once every month, still my mother embraces me so tight, as if I have returned after years. She is literally in tears, when I enter and when I leave. I can feel that tender love and that transfer of emotions through that Jappi.
  Well, this is obviously expected of moms, another example I  would quote is when on one occasion I hugged my room-mate unexpectedly, she smiled with a shock then gripped me hard. Seriously I loved that expression on her face. Maybe, she would be having the same kind of smile while reading it, as I have while typing it ;)...This is what a happy moment brings with it,  the joy of remembrance.
  I am working on it, like how to be more expressive and would suggest my folks to do the same. Express yourself, let your loved ones know, how much you love them. After all, a hug costs nothing and is filled with magic. For those who are far please make a call ;). So, explore your magic my magicians and stay tuned :D

Wednesday, 12 November 2014

Find yourself

In my last post, I talked about what I do to bring my smile back, but all cannot resolve their problem with my solution. This one is yet again a continuation to the previous post but I deliberately did not name it as ' Rekindle your childhood smile part 3', as this would have become monotonous and make you lose interest;). And the basic funda to bring your smile back is to ' break the monotony'. So, I thought I better begin this with the title ;)
   The only way to break the monotony in your life is to bring in something which you love to do. Be it anything singing,dancing,painting, playing guitar,yoga or blogging :D. Trust me when you make space for your hobby, you have something to look forward to, and your hobby never gets monotonous as it will always have a new thrill and excitement for you. I 'll give my example, ever since I started blogging I just wait to get back home and write my new post. I utilize my travel time to think about what I have to write next.
   Now, people may say that we don't have time for doing all this, then I would say that the time which we spend cribbing about 'what a monotonous life we are living', can be utilized to live our spirits (This isn't intended to offend anyone). The happiness that we find in making ourselves happy has no bounds. And sooner you'll also fall in love with your smile.
  So, let yourself loose, be easy to yourself and eventually find yourself. Spend some quality time making yourself happy. and then simply you would love your life.
Keep Smiling and follow this simple algorithm:

Tuesday, 11 November 2014

Rekindle your childhood smile (part 2)

In this post, I'll let you know what all things I do to help myself with a smile. But before that, I 'll share one incident. Once I was alone in my room (which I share with 2 other). I had had a 'very bad' (because I thought so) day and was just waiting for the room to be vacant. And when I grabbed that opportunity I started crying hard. After 5 mins of shedding of tears, I thought I have had enough of it and went to the washroom to wash my face, but before washing my face, I looked myself into the mirror. How horrible I was looking !!! (Though I mostly do).
      I usually do not share about my bad mood to anyone, unless I get caught. So, I am the only one responsible to mend my mood. For that, I watch animated movies or Khichdi episodes or Sarabhai Vs Sarabhai episodes, and even in my worst of moods, I bear a smile while watching those, just because I want to laugh. These light headed shows do not require that 'extra brain' to understand the comedy, and they rejuvenate me.
     Next, I switch to bathroom singing, I sing out loud as if no one is listening, though I am heard most of the times. This activity is just an alternative to the scream therapy which states that you feel stress-free if you scream out loudly. So, this singing alternative doesn't make people feel that you are mad, and you do improve your singing skills ;). I myself have improved because I sing to impress my self. This usually works ;).
    Next, I switch to some creative work, I use my destructive energy to do some constructive work. Now, people reading this might think all cannot be creative, even I had the same thought before I discovered this art. Once out of anger I crushed an aluminium foil, I did not pay any heed to it, until it started taking some shape. The first thing I shaped out was a heart(because that's the easiest) and then gifted it to a friend. The smile which my friend gave to me, on holding such an ordinary thing in her hand, was priceless. Trust me, that joy, to see someone smiling because of you, is out of the world.
Well, the point here is that, I was not born creative, my anger made me creative, and since then I have made many miniatures out of aluminium foil and gifted to people just to receive my priceless gift.
   These are a few of the things which I use to mend my spoiled mood. And I make it sure that whenever I smile, I do look myself into the mirror, because doing this doubles the stretch of that curve on my face, and I love that smile of mine. And that smile is where I find my rekindled childhood. So, Keep Smiling always :D

One of my rekindled smile.

Monday, 10 November 2014

Rekindle your childhood smile

Have you ever seen a kid smiling?? How pure and innocent that smile is !!! I suppose a child's smile is the most contagious thing in this world. As soon as we see one, we hold 'one of those kinds' on our lips. Like this one :
Cute isn't it? Here, the point to be noted is that I mentioned 'one of those kinds ' and not 'exactly similar'. Because there lies a huge difference between those two smiles. Children at tender age find almost everything interesting, all things are new to them and so they laugh out loud at whatever interests them. They do not have the burden of tomorrow on their smile and their smile is not fake. But when they start growing up, they start losing interest in their surroundings, things appear monotonous to them. Even though they know very little of this world, they assume a lot ahead which is going to happen to them later. This is what drains out the innocence of that childhood smile and burdens them with responsibilities.
  So, when did you last laugh like a child? Watch this video: Baby laughing at the sound of ripping paper. And if this video makes you laugh then you still have that spark in you. So, grab it in the next post, how I brought my childhood smile back. Stay tuned :)